You had it all planned out. You had met people just like you online, and they were so nice. You were so compatible. But they don’t look like their profile picture one bit and you don’t like each other’s statuses. Problem?
You had friends going in, people that you knew before they changed, and before you changed upon arriving. The issue is that you both changed, but not in the same way.
College surprised you.
Then there are those awkward encounters at the salad bar where you see someone you thought would be your best friend. They’re all like, “yeah, let’s get lunch sometime,” and you’re all like, “yeah!” but it never happens.
That’s a problem I suffer. Like people who envision married life after a first date, I am quick to form an opinion (often inaccurate about people) regarding how great of friends we could be.
I am someone who hates bothering others. Reaching out is kind of scary for me.
Since a day in college is the equivalent of a week in realtime, so much can change, so quickly. A week later means that two months may have passed, and people who hate each other are now best friends…or the opposite.
It’s still early in the year; people don’t feel the need to keep friends if they have to give effort. Like the add/drop period, this school offers so many potential friends that investing time and trying to be friends is unheard of. If you don’t feel that spark, you drop them, quickly, before the cement dries.
This is a week of throwbacks: