One. Do not believe that social media illustrates reality.
I didn’t rush this week. A lot of girls that I know did. I saw picture after picture of smiling girls holding cardboard letters as well as overheard conversations about mixers and rush-exclusive events. Sure, it looks like people in Greek organizations are having the time of their lives, but you’d be surprised at how unsatisfying it is to simply join a sorority. Empty promises of becoming friends with everyone are made, but all of our experiences in an environment like college, whether we go Greek or not, are what we make of it.
Two. Remember that your life right now could be entirely different in a few years, months, or even weeks. People change, and friends and romantic prospects will too. If someone doesn’t want to associate themselves with you, for reasons completely out of your control, step back, take a breather, and let fate do its thing. There are only so many people in the world, and you weren’t built to interact pleasantly with all of them.
Three. Do all things in moderation. Bad habits are inevitable, but acknowledging them is the first step to curbing any insanely unhealthy tendencies. Take my video game addiction. At one point in my life I was playing nearly every day, for over half an hour. I re-evaluated and realized that those half hours really added up, and resolved to not only play only on certain days of the week, but allow myself a little longer each time to accommodate.
Four. Straight out of tumblr.
I don’t think we take enough time to appreciate the periods in our life when our noses aren’t runny. Is your nose runny right now? No? Think about that. Honestly reflect on it. Enjoy this era of peace. There are dark times on the horizon. (source: thedailylaughs)
Five. Make high quality friends by making sure they don’t like you solely for what you look like. Do No Makeup Mondays. And don’t skip because you think you’re going to see a certain person or are going to a special event. NEVER bend yourself to accommodate someone else. If you notice that people treat you differently if you’re not wearing makeup or a certain type of clothing, then you shouldn’t associate yourself with these kinds of people in the first place. Imagine if the first impression you gave people was always a bare face. Those who stick around stick around for you, not your killer liner-mascara combo.
Six. Eat meals alone if you must. Don’t sit around waiting for someone to respond to your text ‘free for dinner?’ If your friend can join you for dinner, great. But if you need food and are on a schedule, wait for no one and just go eat by yourself. And do it with dignity. Don’t bury yourself in your phone. Look around and take in your surroundings for once.
Seven. Don’t get attached too easily. People are not absolutes, they are comparatives of each other. They have faults and cracks as you do, and you cannot rely too heavily on them.